My choice is to listen, then go learn what is true. And keep my own counsel. And to go with that, I only rarely "tell tales" on specific people.
But when people make connections conditional: "if you stay friends (or even just talk to) with X, we can't be friends" -- that sort of thing edges into emotional blackmail. If the person making the prohibition has reasons for it, I'll listen, and tell them why I may be making an exception. But maintaining real relationships takes careful work.
When people treat connections merely as professional poker chips, it's time to let go of them.
(I hope all that makes sense. I didn't want to go into specific examples. )
That’s heartbreaking. I’m glad you were wise enough to see it and get out in the end. Also thinking of cool collaborations we readers were denied by those people who deceived you!
Welp that was then. This is now. Just know it's not your fault if you trusted people who turned out to be trash. Anyone can be fooled and he was a master at it. Take as much time as you need. Love your work. Peace out.
When someone says this person did this, or this person did that, don't hang around them. My response has been. They haven't done that to me. Thank you for the information. I'll be on my guard.
It's a challenging thing, to be sure.
My choice is to listen, then go learn what is true. And keep my own counsel. And to go with that, I only rarely "tell tales" on specific people.
But when people make connections conditional: "if you stay friends (or even just talk to) with X, we can't be friends" -- that sort of thing edges into emotional blackmail. If the person making the prohibition has reasons for it, I'll listen, and tell them why I may be making an exception. But maintaining real relationships takes careful work.
When people treat connections merely as professional poker chips, it's time to let go of them.
(I hope all that makes sense. I didn't want to go into specific examples. )
Full agreement.
Thank you for sharing, Colleen. It´s good to be reminded once in a blue moon about stuff like this.
The more things change, eh?
That’s heartbreaking. I’m glad you were wise enough to see it and get out in the end. Also thinking of cool collaborations we readers were denied by those people who deceived you!
No one has the right to tell you how to be, who to be friends with, what to do etc. I’m glad you found your self worth in the end.
Welp that was then. This is now. Just know it's not your fault if you trusted people who turned out to be trash. Anyone can be fooled and he was a master at it. Take as much time as you need. Love your work. Peace out.
When someone says this person did this, or this person did that, don't hang around them. My response has been. They haven't done that to me. Thank you for the information. I'll be on my guard.