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comicsprof, Your Trans Grandma's avatar

What saddens me about this, aside from you having to endure such things yet again, is what it says about fandom. Decades ago, Harlan Ellison wrote a scathing essay titled You Don’t Know Me, I Don’t Want to Know You. It documented similar patterns of behavior among SF fans.

What is it about the things they love that makes some fans behave abominably towards creators of those things?

I’m always eager to meet creators whose work moves me. But some years ago I realized what a short conversation that can be.

“I love your work!”

“Thank you.”

After that realization, I thought about what, if anything, I really had to say to that creator as a person. When there was something to say beyond admiration, I was privileged to be part of some wonderful conversations, and in a couple very special instances, I made a good friend.

If someone really loves your work, they owe you respect as a person.

Actually, everyone owes everyone else respect as a starting point. That’s a myopic ideal, but I try to live by it.

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HolRose's avatar

That sounds grim, I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this nonsense.

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