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Rahadyan Sastrowardoyo's avatar

Tom reminds me of an old joke:

How many narcissists does it take to change a lightbulb?

None. They all use gaslighting.

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Given your use of "Tom" as a pseudonym for that guy, I'm amused by his trying to use you to get Neil's info. Because I sort of did the opposite; there was a time Neil was coming out to speak at my then workplace. I reminded him we'd talked about him bringing someone with him who'd shortly be in the job market. Neil brought them, and I did what I'd do for any guest*; give his companion the good tour of the place, with an emphasis on what it was like to actually work there, made sure some of the people at lunch were recent hires from similar backgrounds for them to talk to, etc. Just treating a company guest well and doing some recruiting of someone who'd hopefully be a good hire. Turned out it got down to their deciding between offers from us and a well known rival, and they decided on us, which Neil was pleased about.

*I'm pretty sure this'd be the case; previously I'd done something similar for Dave Barry who I'd never met until he was a performing guest (as part of the Rock Bottom Remainders authors rock band; slogan "We play rock and roll as well as Metallica writes books") at a company event and we'd gotten to talking and it came up that he knew someone who might want to apply...

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